Give Me Some Sunshine
Give Me Some Rain
Give Me Another Chance
I Wanna Grow Up Once Again
One of the characters in a movie "3 Idiots", sings this song when the college director disapproves his project and tells him that he may not be eligible for graduating in the current academic year. Depressed and hurt, the guy starts singing the song and commits suicide ….
Overnight, this song has become a cult song in India for teenagers and people upto age of late 40s. Most started attributing their failures on parents, teachers or bosses saying they didn’t achieve as they didn’t get a right chance and things forced upon them by authorities. Unfortunately, instead of asking question of one’s own self, people were quick to blame others and found an easy path to run away from responsibilities.
To all those, I am having only a saying “Beggars Get What Others Have left”
I may be little harsh here but isn’t it true? How can someone be so naïve to expect a fair treatment when begging for it? Unless you fight for your rights, nobody in this world going to recognize it. There may be few exceptions who sailed through very smoothly but that’s why they are THE EXCEPTIONS. For the less mortal souls like most of us, the option to get what you want is to prove that you really want it and you can do anything to get it. Isn’t the “Survival of the Fittest” principle by Darwin conveys the same message?
My dear friends, LIFE is really a choice and its upto a person what choice he or she is making to go forward. Though people try to influence you, its really you, yourself who is making the choice. Its you, who is deciding either to give in or to stand out for your own wishes. So it gives a signal of immaturity when someone begs for Another Chance.
Infact, when someone is taking decision under the influence, the person has accepted it with all the caveats and all the possible incentives for oneself. Those incentives can be either to please someone, or to avoid hurting someone or either to not incite the wrong side of authorities or no confidence and trust on one’s abilities. Whatever the reason may be but the decision maker has already weighed those and that’s why he or she is in. Now once you are in, whatever may be the reason, you have to give your best so as to avoid the failure. And please bear me my friend, it’s totally unfair to blame anyone for your failure if you haven’t given your best. Rather you have no right to even ask for another chance if you haven’t tried full heartedly in first attempt.
I don’t mean that failure is not accepted. Rather, I am trying to imply that failure after giving your best shot is what required and most appreciated. That’s where you can have the bargain power with this world and world can come to your terms. But if you start crying before you give it a try and started giving funny reasons of taking decision under influence then my dear friend, world will only crush you and your ego to the worst possible level. Forget about the second chance, they will rather make sure that the first chance won’t even been recognized and your value will be termed as less than a ZERO.
Bon Jovi has rightly mentioned in his song, Its My Life,
This is for the ones who stood their ground
For Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky
Got to make your own breaks
For Tommy and Gina who never backed down
Tomorrow's getting harder make no mistake
Luck ain't even lucky
Got to make your own breaks
Better stand tall when they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down
Don't bend, don't break, baby, don't back down
Is this ringing any bell? Are you hearing your own voices about “Why Did You Quit?”, “Why Did You Stop Trying?”….
If yes, then please do not ignore those. Do not blame others for your failure. Remember, you are also equally responsible for implementing those decision taken by others.
As most of us are very ordinary and average people who do not have any extraordinary skills or intelligence or money or power, LIFE is always a full of COMPROMISE. Hence at every instance there will be someone who is trying to influence you one way or other. Mind me but due to one or another reason, most of us have to accept many of those decisions. In the end you have only two choices, “Take your own decisions and be responsible for it” or “When allowing someone to take decision on your behalf, make sure that you have to perform as there is no choice for excuses if you perish”.
If Following Your Passions, is not the way and you may have to put brakes sometimes, never let the inside steam to be vent out due to such unforeseen stops. Always keep it in Ready To Run conditions and whenever you find a suitable situation, just grab it but please NEVER EVER BEG FOR ANOTHER CHANCE.